|Virginia Tech: Lessons to Learn
||[Apr. 20th, 2007|10:43 am]
It's taken me a week to figure out my position on this thing, so bear with me.|
We all know what happened on April 16, 2007, so I don't need to go into the details. A whacko grabbed a couple of guns and killed 32 people, then himself. It was the highest score on a shooting spree yet in America.
This kid left behind those videos wherein he basically reels off every single emo-kid slogan you've ever heard: "I'm in pain, the pain is unbearable, you can never know my pain, you are hedonists and I am pure in my painful deppressive pain." I mean, anyone posting these slogans into your basic internet forum would be flamed as an emo punk until his roasted ass was forced to assume a different login name. Or would be reciprocated with by other emo freaks. Depends on the forum, really.
Now, we hear in the media that this kid was sending out warning signs like a friggin sonar buoy. He stalked a couple of girls, he was found to be mentally unstable by a court, he was constantly writing crazy, depressive shit in English class. There's a big uproar in the media about how people should have seen this coming.
This is, as the saying goes, bullshit.
That's right, this is complete hogwash. The reason I say this is that the warning signals this kid was giving off were lost in the noise. If we did a full on psychological eval on every kid who stalked a girl and then wrote depressing poetry, what little mental health treatment we have in this country would grind to a halt. The fact of the matter is this: writing poems about your depressive painful pain is common as heck. I know I did it in high school and early college (much to my shame), and I'm not the only one.
What's my point here?
Well, there's a couple of them.
1. Get off the college's back
Stop asking why the college didn't do anything beforehand about this kid. All colleges in this country are filled with emo-freaks who try to broadcast their pain in order to receive attention from one another. The jocks get attention through sports, the nerds get attention through intellectual feats, the emo-freaks get attention through pity. Colleges have long since learned that attempting to fix an emo-freak's problems is, for the most part, impossible.
When people enjoy their pain, when pain is the only way they can receive attention from others, then there is nothing that anyone else can do to take that pain away from them. To your basic emo kid, pain is a means to attention, to social interaction. They want to be in pain. Getting them to feel good about themselves is much like getting a heroin addict to put the smack away; they have to want to do it. And they don't. There was nothing the college could have done to fix this kid, and he looked like a hundred other emo kids.
2. Stop Crying Wolf
This one goes out to all the emo freaks out there: knock it off. See what I wrote about you having to want to feel good about yourselves? Start wanting. Realize that pity is a condescending form of attention, and if it's the only kind you are capable of getting, then maybe you are completely worthless.
Being completely worthless is not something to be depressed about so you can get more pity. It is something that you need to fix. Find something you enjoy to do that isn't brooding, and do that instead.
The reason I say this isn't for your own good. Hell with you; I don't really care whether or not you spend your entire life writing bad poems about your prozac addiction. I couldn't care less.
But do you see what I wrote above about the college not being able to do anything because this kid, this truly depressed and psychotic son of a bitch was lost in the noise? Let's take the next logical step from that.
Here it is: THE VIRGINIA TECH SHOOTINGS WERE, AT BASE, THE FAULT OF THOSE STUDENTS WHOSE NOISE DROWNED OUT THE WARNING SIGNS THE SHOOTER GAVE OFF. IF YOU ARE DEPRESSED BECAUSE YOU WANT ATTENTION, YOU AND THOSE LIKE YOU ARE PERSONALLY RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DEATHS OF THOSE 32 STUDENTS.
That's right. I blame the emo-freaks who could have taken off their eye liner and lived trying to be happy instead of wearing their sadness like a badge for the fact that nothing could be done about this kid before hand. If you are one of these people, you are the boy who cried wolf. The wolf just ate 32 people because those people, and those in charge of those people, were too busy trying to ignore you. Knock it off before this happens again.
3. Teach your kids to be decent people
This comes after my above rant about the emop freaks, but the fact of the matter is, emo freaks come from somewhere. They learn early that their position in life is on the bottom, and they learn to use that fact to gain some form of power.
This means: stop turning your kids into bullies. Bullies create emo-freaks. They don't necessarily create the kind of chemical imbalance the actual shooter had, but if our society was generally happier than it is, picking this kind of kid out of the mix would be a hell of a lot easier.
There's two sides to every coin. The emo freaks need to toughen up and drop the act; noone's taking their lunch money now that they're in college. But if you're a parent that spoils and enables your child to be a bastard, not only are you creating an asshole kid, but you're helping that asshole kid create other emo-freaks, and the downward cycle continues.
There. This is a massive problem with society. Was this shooter a victim? NO. This shooter was a crazy fuck who killed a lot of people, and who idolized other crazy fucks who killed lots of people. But the signs of his psychoses were lost in the noise of the professional victims, created by the professional assholes. I'm not saying if people were, on the whole, nicer to each other this kid wouldn't have gone batshit loco. I'm pretty sure that there was a chemical misfire going on in that brain that no societal structure could fix. But he did give out warning signs that he was a crazy fuck. Maybe if the rest of us weren't so busy creating warning signs of our own, someone could have paid attention.